It is a misconception that when you are congenial, whether it is a man or a woman, that people will be able to run all over you. Some people’s attitudes are this; if a person is nice and congenial, they are not strong. However, strength does not always have to be shown by brute force. As I have shown in previous posts – strength comes in different clothes. However, sometimes we need to be aggressive and flex a bit, just so people don’t take advantage.
“Now please don’t think I’m weak, I didn’t turn the other cheek, and Papa, I should hope you understand. Sometimes you gotta fight when you’re a man”Kenny Rogers – Coward of the County
There are going to be some people that you interact with that aren’t the nicest. Some of these people are toxic individuals, narcissists and even sociopaths and psychopaths. If we don’t stand up to these people – these bullies, they will continue their assault on our feelings and our own mental health. I’m not advocating physical violence, but what I am saying is that you can stand up to these people and in some cases, come out with more respect from them and for yourself as well.
Sometimes these toxic people don’t show their true colors, until we are fully invested in the relationship. Then these chameleons show their true selves, and it feels too late. However, it is never too late. You can take back your life and move on. Trust me, some of these people will promise to change, but don’t believe it. Yes some people can make a change and move past their issues, however those are the exception and not the rule.
Life is hard enough to deal with, without having to deal with a toxic person in your life, your niceness will not change them, in some cases nothing will change them. However, you need to get to safety, and start to heal your mind, body and spirit. But whatever you do – don’t lose hope.