Wisdom – the word conjures up mental images of an old man sitting cross legged atop a snowy mountain, doling out advice to all who seek it. But how does one obtain wisdom? It is spoken about in religion and secularism, it is a topic of modern psychology, but is wisdom really attainable, or isContinue reading “Wisdom”

Pleasure and Pain

Pleasure and Pain is a conscious and subconscious battle. We don’t like to experience pain, so our conscious and subconscious makes us avoid pain. If we do experience pain then we want the pain to be over as immediately as possible; but if the pain persists – the pleasure, when the pain is finally alleviated,Continue reading “Pleasure and Pain”

Delayed Gratification

So you can’t really talk about self control without talking about delayed gratification. The concept is simple, it is basically putting off an instant reward for a better reward after a length of time. “But I like things now, I want to have what I want, when I want it.” This is the general consensusContinue reading “Delayed Gratification”

Self Control and Willpower

Self Control and Willpower are very important. Not only to setting and completing your goals, but in every aspect of your life. It has been shown not only to help people attain a successful life, but also a longer life. But what can we do if we don’t have self control? We can actually takeContinue reading “Self Control and Willpower”

Rich and Meaningful

I started this post on the rewards of a life of happiness, and then I fell down a rabbit hole. I understand Dr. Barry Schwartz’s Paradox of Choice. There are so many articles and choices for me to read, that I became weighed down with so much information. As per Dr. Schwarz’s thesis, I actuallyContinue reading “Rich and Meaningful”

The Crusher

You have met this person, not only do they think they are the smartest person in the room, they press their “knowledge” on those around them and if you disagree with them they will argue until their last breath; you will finally just give up, because arguing with this type of person is really exhausting. Continue reading “The Crusher”

Value deprivation

This one also falls under guilt but -more importantly – it is also manipulation. If you are forcing someone to engage in an activity that they don’t feel adds value to their life, but you are wanting them to do it anyway, “so we can spend time together.” That is value deprivation. A good exampleContinue reading “Value deprivation”

Guilt Tripper

“Hold on, we are going on a guilt trip.” Guilting someone is a controlling and manipulating action; that is the only reason for guilting someone. If you want to be someone that people want to be around, guilting them into whatever action you need at that time is not a way for them to beContinue reading “Guilt Tripper”

Slight others/boost themselves

Sometimes we need to feel validated, sometimes we feel that we are not being noticed and we are in the shadows, so we try to come out of the gloom. If you don’t feel like you are getting the validation you deserve, then you start to feel jealous and judgemental. Unfortunately, there is always goingContinue reading “Slight others/boost themselves”