I hate it too, this whole “perception is reality.” Why can’t my reality be everyone else’s reality. If everyone had the same perception, then we would live in a very boring world. However, perception can be skewed: Something that is completely innocuous in action, can seem quite the opposite to someone else. Is there aContinue reading “Perception”


There is nothing more attractive than when a person is responsible and they take responsibility; conversely when someone shirks responsibility, it is a big turn off, especially when they are supposed to be an adult. How do you deal with someone that lacks responsibility? What causes a person to be irresponsible? There are several causesContinue reading “Responsibility”

Transcendence – Self Actualization

When I saw this was a virtue of strength, I was a little pessimistic. I was wondering how transcendence could be a strength, muchless a virtue, but since this blog is “How to be the person that people want to be around.” I have stated this before, I am not there yet, so this isContinue reading “Transcendence – Self Actualization”


This is far less sexy than all of the other virtues, because temperance gets right down to the marrow. What I mean is that if you practice temperance – you cannot do it part way: It is the hard path – the narrow way. Temperance helps you avoid overconsumption by monitoring moderation and self restraint.Continue reading “Temperance”


“Justice means giving each person what he or she deserves or, in more traditional terms  giving each person his or her due.” (Manual Velasquez, Clair Andre, Thomas Shanks, S.J., and Michael J Meyer/Justice and Fairness/ Markkula Center for Applied Ethics/2/22/2021) But isn’t there more to justice? What is justice anyway, and how can we makeContinue reading “Justice”


Humanity Is the third item in our list of what it means to be strong. It is a virtue that seems to have some lacking in our society as a whole. There are three attributes that make up humanity. They are all important. There is: Love, Kindness and Social Intelligence. It might seem easy –Continue reading “Humanity”


The second virtue of strength is courage – But what is courage? Is it John McClane hunting down bad guys? It is Rambo taking out a town, because they drew first blood? King Arthur, the knights of the round table and Camelot? Is it the Cowardly Lion facing the Wicked Witch of the West? YesContinue reading “Courage”