I hate it too, this whole “perception is reality.” Why can’t my reality be everyone else’s reality. If everyone had the same perception, then we would live in a very boring world. However, perception can be skewed: Something that is completely innocuous in action, can seem quite the opposite to someone else. Is there aContinue reading “Perception”

The Norm

I live in the Portland Oregon area, and it would seem that we are a progressive city. We have gay rights rallys, black lives matter rallys, indiginous people rallys, and we host one of the largest fleet week celebrations – every window and yard has the equality flag proudly displayed. We seem to get upContinue reading “The Norm”

Roll Over?

It is a misconception that when you are congenial, whether it is a man or a woman, that people will be able to run all over you. Some people’s attitudes are this; if a person is nice and congenial, they are not strong. However, strength does not always have to be shown by brute force.Continue reading “Roll Over?”

One Race

“We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protests to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force. The marvelous new militancy, which has engulfed the Negro community, must notContinue reading “One Race”

Affection and Love for Healing.

“To heal is to touch with love that which was previously touched by fear.” Stephen Levine With all of the physical and mental illness that is rampant in our society today, we need something that will ease the pain and give relief. I am talking about love and affection. I wrote on the subject ofContinue reading “Affection and Love for Healing.”

The Crusher

You have met this person, not only do they think they are the smartest person in the room, they press their “knowledge” on those around them and if you disagree with them they will argue until their last breath; you will finally just give up, because arguing with this type of person is really exhausting. Continue reading “The Crusher”

Value deprivation

This one also falls under guilt but -more importantly – it is also manipulation. If you are forcing someone to engage in an activity that they don’t feel adds value to their life, but you are wanting them to do it anyway, “so we can spend time together.” That is value deprivation. A good exampleContinue reading “Value deprivation”

Guilt Tripper

“Hold on, we are going on a guilt trip.” Guilting someone is a controlling and manipulating action; that is the only reason for guilting someone. If you want to be someone that people want to be around, guilting them into whatever action you need at that time is not a way for them to beContinue reading “Guilt Tripper”

Slight others/boost themselves

Sometimes we need to feel validated, sometimes we feel that we are not being noticed and we are in the shadows, so we try to come out of the gloom. If you don’t feel like you are getting the validation you deserve, then you start to feel jealous and judgemental. Unfortunately, there is always goingContinue reading “Slight others/boost themselves”

Poor listeners – Toxic talkers

What? That is always my response when someone says I was not listening. However, being a poor listener is not only missing what someone was saying, but sometimes we don’t even let the other person talk. We feel that we have the right to talk and that no other opinion is necessary When you areContinue reading “Poor listeners – Toxic talkers”